NO. 4: DEVELOP A HEALTHY ROUTINE

For me, a healthy routine consists of yoga few times a week, a writers group and a Sunday paper. Write down some things you want to see yourself doing each week and begin.

No. 5: PRACTICE SELF FORGIVENESS

Solitude can make us feel desperate. Desperation can make us act stupid. We’ve all recalled memories that make us shake our heads like an Etch A Sketch in an attempt to physically rid from our brain. That’s why it’s important to forgive yourself for dumb mistakes — in dating and in life. The result is that you stop comparing yourself to others and accept yourself for who you are. Neurologists have found that our neural pathways are like paths in the wood: The more you walk in the same direction, the more you beat out a defined path. If you want to change your negative self-talk, replace it with positivity. Eventually, it will become natural.

No. 6: ACCEPT THAT YOU WILL BE SAD

This is the most important rule regardless of your circumstance. You’re going to feel sad sometimes. We all get rejected. We all feel alone. (Cue REMs “Everybody Hurts Sometimes.”) But it’s a disservice to distract ourselves from the pain. It limits the breadth of our emotions, both the negative and the positive. The good news? By accepting that, at times, you will be sad, you won’t chastise yourself when it happen, and instead do the hard work of understanding that pain and making it count for something.

No. 7: BE A GOOD FRIEND

You have to be a friend to have them, and friendship is one of the most important things in life —  whether single or in a relationship. Nurture your friendships. Show your friends that you love and appreciate them, and don’t ditch them if you find yourself in a relationship.

Do you have some advice on living alone? Leave it in the comments section below!

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